Category: Personal Blogs

This category will consist of me posting things about my life that I want people to know about.

Wife Thingz

Wife Thingz

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WIVES SUBMIT!!! People shout that all the time at women who have husbands. To be honest, a lot of die hard christian men shout this at their wives all the time and throw the scripture at them. To all who through that phrase at wives, do you have the same definition and purpose of submit as the Word of God? Wives, are we submitting the right way? Husbands, are you asking your wives to submit the right way? I know what you are thinking. “Submission means I control everything because I’m the head.” “I give my husband control over me because the bible says he is the head.” Can we delve deeper into this? Let’s go!

Let’s look at the scripture first.

Ephesians 5:22-24; 33 “Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.”

Colossians 3:18 “Wives, submit to your own husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.”

You see the scriptures right? Okay let’s delve into the word “submit”.

Submit: to place oneself in order, to yield willingly, to cooperate with a structure or mission

  1. Willing Alignment– submission is a choice to align with your husbands leadership. You are not submitting because of perfection, but because GOD IS FAITHFUL.
  2. Order Not Value– It is function not worth. Just like Jesus submits to the Father yet they are equal in divinity. SUBMISSION= DIVINE ORDER FOR UNITY
  3. Strength Under Control– Submission is meekness NOT weakness. A submitting wife is not quiet because she is small, but because she’s INTENTIONAL.
  4. Mutuality in Context(verse. 21)- It is mutual honor, sacrificial love, and shared purpose. Walk WITH your husband NOT BEHIND HIM.

In verse 33 the word “respect” is placed there. What does respect mean? It means to honor, treat as significant, and regard with care. So what does this mean exactly? Let me tell you. It means treat him like he is important. That means you are to choose words, tone, and posture that AFFIRMS his significance even in disagreement (Proverbs 18:21). It means speaking respectfully especially when things are tense as that is when reverence REALLY shows up. At those moments you are to correct without belittling, disagree without contempt, and express without attacking. Respect is guarding his dignity publicly and privately. Respect is trusting his desire to do well. Acknowledge your husband’s efforts not just his outcomes. Acknowledge his growth, not just his gaps. Acknowledge his intentions EVEN WHEN execution falls short. This will create the space for redemption.

Respect also creates EMOTIONAL SAFETY. This helps him to lead without defensiveness, listen without shutting down, and love more freely. In our day to day lives as wives it looks like speaking about him with honor, not tearing him down to others, letting him know you see his value, allowing him space to lead without micromanaging, choosing admiration over nagging (which can be hard for some), and protecting his name even when correcting him.

Let me tell you what reverence is NOT. It is NOT being afraid to speak your truth. It is NOT idolizing or excusing sinful behavior. It is NOT silencing your needs or emotions. It is NOT allowing disrespect or abuse slide. It is DEFINITELY NOT making yourself small so he can feel big. God NEVER asks a wife to abandon wisdom, discernment, or dignity.

There it is in a nutshell. Let me make something clear. I am talking to all wives INCLUDING myself. I have only been married for 2.5 years, HOWEVER God began dealing with ME and how I was as a wife at first. THE DIFFERENCE? I began to look at ME. Not very many women do that today in current 2025. A lot of women struggle with accountability (that is another subject for another post later on). As for me? I began changing things that did not necessarily make me a bad wife but there were things I weren’t doing the bible way. I had the wrong idea of submission the ENTIRE TIME. Can I tell on myself? I certainly can. I needed a heavy renewal of my mind on this and with the Lord’s help. I was successful. Now I press EVERY DAY toward the mark. I do my best to make sure that I am doing the things that are posted right here on this site. These are the things of a wife. God bless.

Breeding Anxiety

Breeding Anxiety

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Have you ever thought to yourself, “Do I create my own anxiety?” If you have not had that thought, how real are you being with yourself? If you have had that thought, you are not alone. My blogging is designed to help those out there, especially women be real to be real with themselves, to think/examine themselves, and to come to the realization that we are not alone. This blog is meant for ENCOURAGEMENT and the nudging for SPIRITUAL GROWTH. Now of course, my blogs come with scripture. I wouldn’t being doing you, me, or anyone any justice if I didn’t. So, let’s start with this one: “Do not be anxious about anything–but in everything, by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God.“-Philippians 4:6

We are believers and devoted children of the most high right? So WHY do we struggle to obey Philippians 4:6? We are anxious when it comes to our education, family, children, marriage, health, you name it! Let me be real. I am one who honestly STRUGGLES with anxiety. I have gotten so much better in some areas but the anxiety has remained. Why is that? Let me tell you. In all honesty, WE CAUSE OUR OWN ANXIETY by the things and thoughts we put into our minds and the things that we speak. The word of God tells us “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable—if there is any virtue and if there is anything worthy of praise—dwell on these things.”-Philippians 4:8 Isn’t it funny how these words come after the Lord telling us not to be anxious about anything? It took me a long time to realize that I cause my own anxiety and it is because of what I am meditating on? Ask yourself what are you meditating on? Instead of feeling our minds with and focusing on how people act towards us, what people say to us, what bills we have, if we are good wives, if we are good mothers, if we are good children to our parents, if we are worth anything, what people think of us, if we are good employees, what if you are sick, if we are doing enough, how are we going to get certain things done, and the list can go on and on for ANYBODY. The bottom line is those are NOT THE THINGS that we should be focusing on. Whatever concerns and worries we have, we are instructed to take them to God. Unfortunately, we do not always do that, or we do it but then pick it back up instead of leaving it there. I am at the point in my life where I am choosing to focus on WHO GOD IS, His LOVE, His GRACE, His WORD, my loveable and loving son, my husband and the good things he does and says, the career God has blessed me with, the home and family God has blessed me with, the transportation I have to get to my place of employment, the food God provides, I HAVE A LIST. Focus on the things that you know you do correctly and with a pure heart. Do not focus on your shortcomings. Focus on what you have accomplished, YES even the smallest things like completing your laundry for the day. Choose to meditate on the positive impact you make on the lives of others, because believe it or not you ARE making an impact. As a mother, wife, daughter, son, sibling, teacher, advocate (whatever your career entails), you ARE making an impact. Choose. I choose to meditate on those things that are worthy of praise, the lovely things, the pure things, the commendable things. I am choosing to speak life over my life (Proverbs 18:21). You have to decide what you will choose to do. Will you speak life or death? Will you meditate on the negative or the positive? Will you fill your mind with the things and love of God or the cares of life? Whatever choice you make, there is fruit that follows. Be Blessed!

Living in This Present World

Living in This Present World

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Hey guys! Thank you for visiting today! Let me share with you why I titled this blog “Living in This Present World”. I want to first start with Titus 2:11-15 which states “For the grace of God that bringeth salvation hath appeared to all men, Teaching us that, denying ungodliness and worldly lusts, we should live soberly, righteously, and godly, in this present world; Looking for that blessed hope, and the glorious appearing of the great God and our Saviour Jesus Christ; Who gave himself for us, that he might redeem us from all iniquity, and purify unto himself a peculiar people, zealous of good works. These things speak, and exhort, and rebuke with all authority. Let no man despise thee.” It can be difficult living in this world as a believer when you have everything around you to tempt you to fall. There are others out there who sometimes feel like they are missing out on all the fun and entertainment that the world enjoys. Let me tell you something THAT USED TO BE ME. Do you know what happens when you start to think about the world and what you are missing? YOU BEGIN TO COMPROMISE! AND COMPROMISING IS A BIG NO NO. As the scripture says, OBEDIENCE IS BETTER THAN SACRIFICE (1 Samuel 15:22). If you start to feel that way you need to pray and REPENT for those thoughts that you KNOW are not godly. Don’t you know that being connected to and friends with the world makes you an ENEMY OF GOD (James 4:4)? Trust when I tell you ITS NOT WORTH IT. People will try to make you feel like you are being dramatic, too religious, ridiculous, holier than thou, and all sorts of things….but guess what LET THEM TRY. We are here to do Gods will and demonstrate His kingdom in the earth. It all starts with Matthew 6:33 “But seek he first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added unto you.” THAT IS THE MANDATE FOR EVERY BELIEVER. Any part of this world can pull you away from the things of God when he clearly gave the believers an assignment. Jesus first message when he began to preach was REPENT! THE KINGDOM OF HEAVEN IS AT HAND (Matthew 4:17). This is the same message we ought to be giving and saying to others. We are supposed to be presenting the Gospel of Jesus (His death, burial, and resurrection). We are supposed to be winning souls into the kingdom of God, preaching the kingdom of God, healing the sick and raising the dead, casting out demons (Matthew 10:7-8, Luke 9:1-2, Luke 10:9-11, Mark 3:14-15, Mark 16:17-18). We are supposed to be getting people to change their mindset and life around to go towards JESUS (repentance). Our focus is not the world and what they are doing, how they act, what they say, what they do, how they treat us, how they talk about us, mock us, laugh at us, ridicule us, shun us, hate on us, and so forth the list can go on and on. That’s going to happen. There are going to be people who don’t even want to hear you, listen to you, or even receive you! Some people will be looking for messages that appeal to them and want they want their desires. OH WELL! SHAKE THE DUST OFF AND KEEP IT MOVING TO THE NEXT SOUL. The scriptures that go with what I just said are here:
2 Timothy 3:1-5 “This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come. For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good, Traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God; Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away.”

2 Timothy 4:2-5 “Preach the word; be instant in season, out of season; reprove, rebuke, exhort with all long suffering and doctrine. For the time will come when they will not endure sound doctrine; but after their own lusts shall they heap to themselves teachers, having itching ears; And they shall turn away their ears from the truth, and shall be turned unto fables. But watch thou in all things, endure afflictions, do the work of an evangelist, make full proof of thy ministry.”

Matthew 10:14 “And whosoever shall not receive you, nor hear your words, when ye depart out of that house or city, shake off the dust of your feet.”

Mark 6:11-13 “And whosoever shall not receive you, nor hear you, when ye depart thence, shake off the dust under your feet for a testimony against them. Verily I say unto you, It shall be more tolerable for Sodom and Gomorrha in the day of judgment, than for that city. And they went out, and preached that men should repent. And they cast out many devils, and anointed with oil many that were sick, and healed them.”

Luke 9:5-6 “And whosoever will not receive you, when ye go out of that city, shake off the very dust from your feet for a testimony against them. And they departed, and went through the towns, preaching the gospel, and healing every where.”

We are on an assignment people…..we don’t have time to act like Jesus is not returning. Let us do what we are called to do! Let us be doers of the word and not just hearers! We are not like everyone else we are PECULIAR (1 Peter 2:9, James 1:22)

It costs to walk with God, a lot of us don’t really understand all that it takes….but once you make that decision DO NOT LOOK BACK. IF you look back you are not fit for the Kingdom…. (Luke 9:62)
LET US DESIRE TO KNOW GOD, THE POWER OF HIS RESURRECTION, AND THE FELLOWSHIP OF HIS SUFFERINGS (PHILLIPIANS 3:10)

WE DON’T HAVE TIME TO LIVE LIKE EVERYONE ELSE IN THIS PRESENT WORLD! JESUS IS COMING BACK SOON AND WE HAVE WORK TO DO. LET US DO IT!

Contentment

Contentment

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For most of life, I think we fight God. We keep trying to show him what we were made for. We keep giving him better ideas. We keep working for something bigger and greater than anything he seems to have in mind for any of us. By the time we are in mid-life, we feel we somehow have missed out on some of the great things we were born for.

I come to you however, knowing God made me not to impress you. Not to be perfect or a genius. Not to make millions! God made me to be uncomplicated in my faith. To take your hand regardless of who you are or how you look.To listen to you. To accept you right where you are. To love you unconditionally just like he does. God made me to be real. To be honest. To be open.To never compare myself to you, but to strive to become my own best person. In the midst of all that..Im here to help you find him and build a relationship with him. You got to want it.

Having The Heart To Give/Deal With Family

Having The Heart To Give/Deal With Family

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This post is about 2 things: giving and family. Lets talk about family for a second. I have a sister…..who has been feeling a certain about certain people since she was a little girl. Those people are my parents and part of it includes me. As you know my sister is older than me by 4 years clearly she was born before me. Heres the problem: She feels as if we dont love her and if we do she cant see it. She believes that I am spoiled only because she thinks that she have never gotten the same treatment that I have received from my parents. She says all she ever wanted was to feel like she has a family that loves and cares for her. Because she feels the way she feels she feels like she doesnt need to be surrounded by people that dont care for her. She would rather give her attention to other people and dismiss her family. As for me…she feels that I dont respect her as my big sister or an adult for that matter. I tell her thats not true. I have tried being there for her, talking to her, hanging out with her,etc. Previously growing up with her it didnt happen that way….I may have acted a certain way to keep from following in her footsteps as i was younger because of what my parents told me all my life….I cant put my sisters mistakes on the internet…nor mine as well…all I say is awhile back I was a big mess…and her? Well shes still in her ways a little bit and refuses to change. She has her mind made up. In the year of 2010 I decided to change and give my life to Christ…..ever since then Ive been trying to put my family back together in which I feel is broken. I feel like no one is cooperating with me….My sister believes that she does not need to get her hopes up…she thinks my parents wont change….I do admit….my parents have ways that eat me up inside…but I pray for them as well as my sister….but nothing seems to be happening yet…except the fact that everyone is trying to come together and be a family again…like we used to…but its happening so slowly….w/o the participation of my sister….I believe what opened everyones eyes is this…I had a fiance who loved and adored me….he recently passed back in January….so suddenly…one minute he was talking to me…the next hes gone in my arms…and I have been tryin to live with that night every day of my life since then….I think we all decided that life is too short for all the grudges, bad treatment and bickering….We now see the only thing that matters is whats happening now….and right now? My family is broken..and I am doing my best to put everything back in place…..A long time ago someone told me that I would be the bridge for my family…..The problem is…Im still waiting for this to fall into place…All I know is…I cant lose patience…and I refuse to lose faith….The minute I do that….everything will fall apart and get worse….I cant let that happen….I got to keep pressing toward the mark. Let God do the rest. He hears me……He knows what this family needs…

Very First Blog(the reason I created it)

Very First Blog(the reason I created it)

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This is my very first blog and it is only to say that I am happy to be here! I look forward to giving you guys something to read! I hope you enjoy it! The things I post will be to motivate and encourage you guys! This is something that you can read and some things you will relate to. Not only am I posting scriptures from the word of God but I will be posting poetry and regular topics in every day life as well! I really look forward to your comments and questions. Please do not hesitate to ask! Thank you and enjoy!